Would you refuse a purposal if you don't like the ring?

no, because it's pretty shallow if you do

What idiot would do that?!?! What have we come to????

I don't care about the ring if the guy loves me and I love him why would I do that

I would make it clear from the beginning that I want to have a conversation to figure this stuff out, and if a ring is involved I want to be the one to pick it