So, I need some advice... my fiancé says my family is borderline abusing me... I'll explain more in the comments.

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jaqiThe reasons he gives as to why he thinks I'm being abused is because of several things. The first is my numbing fear of them. Any time I would need to be confrontational to them I can't because they get angry and I have a very violent mental reaction to their anger. I basically have panic attacks. Btw I'll let you all know for age reference I am legally an adult.

jaqiI hope you all can read what I wrote, because it only shows me the first sentence.

jaqiAny, the first reason is numbing fear to their anger, but second is in regards to my "chores".

jaqiMy chores are basically the upkeeping of most the household when no ones home, excluding cooking which is about all my mom does.

jaqiI must clean all my family's dishes and the whole kitchen, iron all my family's clothes as well as keep my room and bathroom in perfect condition, which never happens... (that's the basics only, they add other chores depending on the day) and get yelled at intensely if I do anything wrong or miss or forget.

jaqiSo first is fear, second is basically be their maid, and thirdly is I'm constantly being given inexcusable curfews ranging from 10 being the latest I can be out, to 8 and occasionally I have to be home by 6. For no reason other than they have to get up early the next day and refuse to go to bed until I'm home so their performance of the next day is my fault.

jaqiI really hope you guys can read those.

jaqiAll my long explanations didn't show up for me...

jaqiIf you all can't see them, I'll repost what I said in smaller chunks.

jaqibut as for my question, what do I need to do? Confront my parents about these things? Or do I just let them happen? What do I do?

💋✌🏻️Beautina💋✌🏻️how old are you?

jaqiI'm not gonna answer that. Sorry...

jaqiI'm a legal adult is all I'll say

jaqiThat's an issue of money... I don't have enough to support myself...

jaqiThat's not a bad idea. I'll look into that, thanks. :)

jaqi@💋✌🏻️Beautina💋✌🏻️I just realized none of my responses had your name to them sorry. XD

💋✌🏻️Beautina💋✌🏻️good luck! 🤗

ToastI think you should talk to your family about that. You should not be their maid and you should not fear them..

KaitlynI agree with @toast be open and honest with them

LoriWork as hard as you can to become self sufficient. Get away from them as fast as you can.

Lélekhe's an outside perspective so maybe they are